Danielle Cote

This was originally posted on March 7, 2025.

You can have it all and do all the things… until you can’t.

Until the universe, or your body, tell you to slow the f down.

Everything’s important. Until it isn’t.

Being a “yes person” can feel gratifying until the very next “yes” means another “yes”, that you are not giving to yourself.

As each day comes to a close, there’s an infinite amount of things that could have also been done that day.

Sometimes it feels like if all the mess that you can physically see (dishes in the sink, pile of clothes that need to be put away, unchecked items on your list or unread emails…) will magically erase the mess that you can’t see, but man, oh man, can you feel it.

You walk to do one task and are sidetracked on the way by a dozen other things, and before you know it you’re completely derailed doing a different project and never even did the original thing you set out to do.

I live in a color coded calendar world, and the majority of my days and nights are tracked, both professionally and personally. Much of it can be quite the sliding scale throughout the day and week, which is why the idea of paper planner is absolutely horrifying to me.

I had a “wake up call” Monday night, and goodness gracious, body and universe, I f’in hear you.

As I was going through a workout on Tuesday, Emeryn was playing with dozens of balls. Some big. Some small. All of them incredibly distracting when they’re being thrown around you (or at you) Some were getting in my way, physically. Others were just distracting and one more thing being added to the collection of toys that were getting taken out with each passing minute.

Which ones did I NEED to move to avoid tripping on? What others could I deal with later?

I wanted to be able to get to all of them, but knew I needed to focus on what ones required my immediate attention.

The universe is throwing ya a lot of balls. You can’t catch ‘em all, but if you’re not careful, one will hit you right in the face.. but hey, sometimes, maybe that’s what you need.